Thursday, March 05, 2009

Oh, the irony...

There is a student who has been plaguing me. He's thick as a brick, and rude. (I've even resorted to writing my sentences on the board, explaining which verbs act on which nouns, and asking if he understands all of the words. He makes my ADD student look good.) He's been asking for extra tutoring, and I've been playing hard to get. (Extra yarn money is nice, but not when I have to wring water from stone.) I've even given him lists of potential tutors, plus one with a recommendation from my regular student.

He still wants *me*.

Perhaps I need to try these techniques on guys who show boyfriend potential. (Should I ever find some of those...)

17 comments:

Mathgirl said...

Just a thought but I don't think recommending potential boyfriends to other people for tutoring and writing all your sentences out on boards for them will help you get them ;)

Muriel said...

I would play "impossible to get" ;-)

noricum said...

Mathgirl: Is *that* why I can't find/keep a boyfriend?!? ;)

Muriel said...

Are you trying to find a boyfriend ?

noricum said...

Not actively... partially because I wouldn't have a clue where to look, partially because I'm chicken, and partially because I'm pretty busy. However, if one showed up on my doorstep fully trained, it would be nice. :)

Muriel said...

There are 100 places to look, there is nothing less common than men (I know I know you don't want any man, but still).
Being chicken looks cute.
About being busy, it is either an excuse (back to previous thing) or either a sign you are not that interested.
And about showing up on your doorstep, there is a very low probability.
(I kind of understood that the people on your doorstep are not that interesting)

If you want a coach let me know, I would be happy to do it.
You deserve to be happy with a nice boyfriend.

Muriel said...

;-)

noricum said...

I don't suppose that you have that list of 100 places to look handy? (If it includes "bar", cross that one off, and just send me the other 99... I personally believe that bars are bad places to meet boyfriend-quality men.)

Muriel said...

I know a friend of a friend who went on eharmony.
She found a great guy !!!
He is smart, reasonably good-looking, engineer, very nice and funny.
I couldn't believe it (she is very kind but not pretty at all, you have no idea).
So I thought if I am single again some day, this is something to try.
The nice guys are not always the ones going out all the time unfortunately.

Muriel said...

A huge percentage of people find their loved ones at work, it is actually supposed to not be the place to look for it, but that is where it often happens.

Other places are places where men like to go, like game convention, chess club, computer stuff, ... I don't know what is in your neighborhood.
Where you are the only woman around it helps a lot.

Same for internet, lots of men, very few woman, again a good place, but many people are looking for not serious relationships, so one has to be careful. Eharmony seems like something more serious though.

But I believe that on number two after the work place, should be like birthdays of friends, weddings, these places have the advantage that you meet people that somehow are in your socio-environment or something, and these kind of events drag out some guys that usually don't go out so often (the best ones ;-)).

I agree for bars, but everything is a question of probability, even if the probability is low (like on your doorstep), it is not null.

Next step is talk to the guy.
That step is very important ;-)

noricum said...

I tried the e-harmony questionaire once... it told me that it didn't have anyone that would be a good match for me. How bad is it when an online matchmaker tells you you're hopeless?

At work, I'm surrounded by guys (being in CS), but that never seems to help. The undergrads are much younger, the profs (for the most part) much older, and I'm not sure where the grad students hide. Birthday parties I attend are all women (and their kids). Most of my friends are already married (I was away at the time), and at my cousin's wedding, again everyone was either much younger or older.

Whenever I meet someone around my age who I like, he's married. :P

Muriel said...

I would try that :
http://www.fastlife.ca/how-speed-dating-works.html

noricum said...

Muriel: I might give that a try later if POF doesn't work, but speed dating seems high stress, and you can't actually get to know someone that way. What you learn is pretty superficial.

Muriel said...

My theory is that the first 6 months you are with someone, all what you know is superficial, this is called being in love ;-)

The good thing about the speed dating compare to the dating website is that you get "the feeling", that doesn't take time, it is very important and doesn't go from computer to computer.

Sometimes you find somebody "perfect" on the internet, with all the qualities you like and when you actually meet the person, you feel a repulsion.

On the other hand, sometimes in real life you may feel attracted to people very different from you without knowing why and good things can happen.

Life is full of surprises.

Muriel said...

Did you see the movie "YES"? or "YES MAN"? something like that.
Funny movie.

noricum said...

Is that the one with Jim Carrey? I didn't see it, but I saw the commercials on TV. (I'm generally too cheap/poor to see movies in the theatre.)

Muriel said...

Yes it is that one.